Go Go Go is His Motto

Our youngest son likes to plan and go. Going is the most important part of life to him. He really just wants to go, go, go. It doesn’t matter where, as long as he is going. However, planning is low on his priority list. It is usually so low on his ‘to do’ list, that he doesn’t get to the planning part, until he is at where he was going. So you can see how this drives me crazy. Of course, it would be so simple to just slow down for a minute or two, give a couple of brain cells some exercise, to determine if you need to think about what you are doing, before you do it. But that slowing down part puts a crimp in the going part. So he just goes and worries about the planning later.

The real issue for me is how to deal with his lack of planning. Do we, as his parents, step in and plan for him? No! Not unless it is physically dangerous for him. We let him make his own mistakes and hopefully one day it will click with him, to actually plan before he goes. He will one day. But until then, most of his goodbyes will resemble his send off Tuesday night.

Guess what we did? When his car is completely packed, and as he kisses his mom goodbye, she asks, “Where are your glasses?” He gives her that blank stare. The one I get a lot, when he is trying to remember what month he last had his glasses. So we spend the next thirty minutes looking in his empty room, his full car, and the rest of the house, trying to find his glasses. We empty his car of all his stuff. We go through each suitcase and box. We look in every crevice of the car. No glasses. We put it all back. We look everywhere we can think to look. No glasses. He doesn’t need them to drive, but sometimes he uses them in class, to see small printing on the blackboard. He is convinced they are in his car somewhere. So he leaves without them.

He called today to get his prescription, so he can order a new pair of glasses. At least he is planning now. He is planning to have a pair of glasses before his classes start. I will keep you posted.